What is so alluring about love that makes it such a popular conversation topic? Something on love life, or the lack of, would definitely find its way on dinner tables or over coffee. It is the instant connector that bridges time spent apart among old friends, the magical ingredient that binds strangers into feeling a lifetime of familiarity. The question is rhetorical, the answer quite a rude awakening: in the heart of hearts, we’re all looking for love, whether we realize it, whether we confess it, it is a desire that sits on everyone’s mind. Particularly so in this stage of life, before marriage when nothing is cast in stone diamond ring, after days of immaturity when we think we’re a little wiser, a little more discerning, the need to be in love with another human is- ever present.
So, we talk about it all the time, the ideal guy, the ideal girl. We listen to lyrics that promise of fairytale endings, watch movies with gorgeous couples having candlelight dinners, read books that describe an experience so amazing, it carves a hole within us that enlarges the more we purposefully set out to find Love and pocket it.
Sitting on the sidelines of love, all I speak about is the difficulty of falling in love. All the other benchwarmers excluded from this capital L game agree. This unison and certainty in their replies unsettles me and makes me quite sick and tired of all this discussion. All talk and more talk makes the desire to be in love stronger.
I have come to realize that we can be in love, with possibly anyone, any person in this world. Our emotions are simply a concoction of various factors, our then state of mind, the people around, the environment.
But one thing puzzles me greatly…if you never know what love is, how will you know you are in love?
2 comments:
hahaha alright we'll stop talking about it! not.
A good Sociology friend of mine has this to say about my question:
You don't have to know what love is to know you're in love! Brilliant huh. Totally copied the idea from the Sociology of Religion module we took together last semester: You don't have to be able to define religion to know what religion is, and how it works in society. Same goes for love.
....HE is love. No, God is not the GOD of love. HE is love itself. There is no god of love.
...So any attempt to define what love is results in the constraint of trying to describe God.
... we were just made by the Creator to love and be loved. Thus being the fact, it also follows that we will recognize love when we feel it within us. We will just know.
Amazing stuff, posted it here cause it definitely deserves a read!
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